These are the best places to cry in San Francisco


If the state of, well, everything is getting you down, we understand. When you’re going through it, screaming into a pillow in the privacy of your bedroom isn’t always enough.

Sometimes you need to cry ugly in front of a beautiful view.

But where? Chronicle staff photographer Jessica Christian recently asked this very important question on Twitter: Where is your favorite place to cry in public in San Francisco?

Christian’s post garnered nearly 200 responses about people’s favorite places to let their feelings out. twitter user @coolgrey replied, “Top of Strawberry Hill, sitting on that log facing north.” User @Nat_Estrada44 suggested the Palace of Fine Arts – “the acoustics are excellent and the swans are very critical.”

We’ve sorted through the responses on Twitter to see where people like to let their tears flow. Whether you’re caught out in the city by your feelings or need to let out a calculated howl into the void, these are the best places to escape for a sob.

The ruins of the Sutro Baths at Lands End in San Francisco.

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Sutro Baths

Public baths in the late 1800s, today the concrete ruins and saltwater pools of Sutro Baths draw visitors to Lands End inside the Golden Gate National Recreation Area. Sit on the rocks to cry as you watch the sunset, or for some privacy try the Sutro Baths cave, where the pounding of the waves can drown out your moans.

Mile Rock Beach

Also at Lands End (a name that sounds like an invitation to cry) is Mile Rock Beach, a small cove just below Lands End Point with breathtaking views and dramatic fog to match your dark mood. Walk through the maze to feel your feelings more.

About Muni

You’re not a San Franciscan until you cry on public transportation. Twitter replies to Christian’s post were full of suggestions for transit lines. Christian’s personal favorites of the 38-Geary line – where other passengers are too packed like sardines to notice your tear-stained face – and the N-Judah, before the tunnel descent or the turnaround near Ocean Beach , were particularly popular. twitter user @lynaecook
shouted on the 31st or 5th – “something about that ride to Safeway that appeals to me” and @cpthungerstrike nodded at the Balboa Park BART station: “There’s no place more synonymous with purgatory, like something out of a bad dream than climbing those lonely steps in the fog for the buses that run once every 30 minutes .”

twin peaks

At around 925 feet, Twin Peaks is one of the highest points in San Francisco. Climb (or drive) to the top to escape the surrounding town and have a good cry in the clouds. But keep in mind that you will probably be surrounded by tourists admiring the panorama on the weekends. Go on a weekday morning for maximum solitude. For more timid screamers, try Mt. Davidson, San Francisco’s tallest natural point, where you can feel your emotions without the crowds.

Children's skim board at Ocean Beach in San Francisco.

Children’s skim board at Ocean Beach in San Francisco.

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The beach

Ocean Beach (easily accessible from the N-Judah) is one of the residents’ favorite places to let out their emotions. Pros: Almost everyone does it here, the large sand dunes make great hiding places and the roaring waves cancel out all sound. If you want to cry on a beach with a great view of the Golden Gate Bridge, try Baker Beach on a clear day.

Around Golden Gate Park

With approximately 1,017 acres, there are plenty of places in Golden Gate Park to mourn in relative solitude. For quiet and serene places, visit the Shakespeare Garden or the AIDS Memorial Grove. At the Botanical Garden, discreet pathways lead to wooded nooks with private benches and logs perfect for mourning.

Lover's Lane in the Presidio.

Lover’s Lane in the Presidio.

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The way of lovers

One of the oldest trails in the Presidio, this serene one-mile walk crosses a creek and passes historic sites dating back to the 1930s, when the area was a military base. In 1994, the land was turned over to the National Park Service. It is said that enlisted men used this path to meet their loved ones in the city, but today the scenic tree-lined path brings nature to tears.

University campuses

Whether it’s City College San Francisco, San Francisco State University, or UCSF, students have plenty of nooks and crannies to study, rest, and cry between classes on SF campuses. . Sniff at the City College Art Gallery, bawl in the secluded SFSU Memorial Garden, which honors 19 Japanese-American students forcibly deported during World War II; or spend some quiet time in UCSF’s Garden of Resilience, which honors healthcare workers during the pandemic.

Bernal Heights Park

With spectacular 360-degree views of San Francisco Bay and the hills of East Bay, Bernal Heights Park is the perfect destination when you need to get away somewhere scenic. Take a seat on the hill, take in the cityscape below, and let the tears flow.

Everywhere else

Other places people recommend include the Zeitgeist Backyard, the Grace Cathedral Maze, the Water Park, and crossing the Bay Bridge to Oakland. @GalaxyKate suggested Tonga bedroom bathroom. “You feel like you’re crying with everyone who had a bad date in 1960.”

Vanessa Arredondo (her) is a writer for the San Francisco Chronicle. Email: [email protected]: @v_anana


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